“They want to live with me rent free for the next 10 months”: 29-year-old woman insists on moving family of 4 into her older brother’s home after spending savings on dream vacation, he refuses

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    AITAH for Refusing to Let My Sister’s Family Live in My House After They Sold Theirs for a "Dream Vacation"?

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    So, I (32M) own a modest three- bedroom house that I've been paying off for the last ten years. It's nothing fancy, but it's mine, and I'm proud of it. My sister
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    (29F) and her husband (31M) are the typical free-spirited types. They've always talked about quitting the rat race, living life to the fullest, all that. Well, a few
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    months ago, they finally did it- they sold their house during a booming market, thinking the profit would fund a year-long break to travel.
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    They believed they could stretch the money by traveling cheaply, staying in hostels or Airbnbs, and getting by with occasional odd jobs. At first, they stayed in nicer
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    places and ate out a lot, thinking they had plenty of cushion, but within two months, they were out of money. They underestimated
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    how quickly expenses would pile up, especially with two young kids (7F and 5M) to feed and care for.
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    Now that their funds are drained, they've decided to stop full-time travel but don't want to settle down yet. Instead, they asked to
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    live with me, rent-free, for the next 10 months while they "figure things out." They say they'll still try to take some occasional trips
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    if they find super cheap deals, but for the most part, they want to stay at my house.
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    I told them no. My house isn't big enough, I don't want the disruption, and I certainly don't think it's fair for them to live off
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    me because their plan failed. I offered to help them find an affordable rental or even cover part of their expenses for a couple of months so they could get back on their feet, but that
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    wasn't enough. My sister blew up at me, calling me selfish and accusing me of being jealous of their "adventurous lifestyle."
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    To make it worse, my parents are siding with her, saying that family should help family and that I'm being too rigid. The thing is, my parents live in a small apartment
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    and can't take in my sister's family, which is probably why they're pushing it on me. They say I don't understand the "value of experiences" and that I should
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    be more supportive. Some of our mutual friends are also saying I should be more understanding, but I think it's completely
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    unreasonable to expect me to house their whole family for nearly a year just because they didn't plan properly. AITAH?
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    bythebrook88 They say I don't understand the "value of experiences" Tell them you don't 'value the experience' of have freeloaders in your house indefinitely. NTA
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    Dresden_Mouse Then they should "value the experience" of homelessness.
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    CinnamonBlue Financial sc. w-ups: Check Parents on side of financial w-ups: Check
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    Mutual friends on side of financial scw-ups: Check Parents can upsize. Mutual friends can accommodate. You are under zero obligation to fund their financial sw ups.
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    Wicked Whimsyy Definitely not the a_h_le. You didn't sign up to be a hotel for your sister's impulsive decisions. Let
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    them enjoy their "dream vacation" while you enjoy the peace and quiet of your own home.

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